After looking around the blogosphere and chatting with Gigi, I’ve noticed that a lot of people can’t seem to keep a man. Is it because of the ‘lifestyle’ we keep? Our overly painted faces? What the fuck is causing these men to run for the hills?
No I’m not talking about fuck buddies, one night stands, or anyone you think as a toyboy. Those boys, and I do mean boys, aren’t meant for a true solid relationship. I’m talking about men, those who are trying to do something for themselves, hold jobs, maybe even go to school.
I’m tired of you whiny little bitches constantly complaining about why you can’t keep a man, or why men only want you for sex. You’re obviously either picking the wrong man or you’re doing one (or maybe all) of the following…
1. Being pushy, Nagging, or Whining:
This is all in one section because they can be used in place of each other… You want him to do something for you, so you do everything in your womanly power (short of sexing him up) to get it. Maybe he just doesn’t want to, or you’re just asking him too much for it. Maybe he’s having a bad day and just wants to relax in your company. You’re talking too much. Just. Stop it.
2. Being unfaithful, or acting like it.
Now this can be tricky. Cheating has a lot of different definitions nowadays. But I can honestly say this, if you have an option of communicating with your ex boyfriend and your current man wants you to stop. YOU STOP! You don’t hold off from talking to the ex until you man calms down. You don’t ignore your man and keep talking to the ex. YOU. JUST. STOP! I can’t even fathom this being an issue. But once I had read it on a certain someone's blog *cough*you know who you are*cough* I was so irritated. How could you not accept that one request? Its common fucking sense. There’s a reason why that guy’s the ex. Keep it that way!
3. Not making it 50/50.
Even in the land of sugar daddies and their babies, there is a mutual understanding in the relationship. When you act as if the relationship revolves around you, you deserve to be dumped. If you don’t care about him enough to be on equal footing, then why are you with him in the first fucking place? Mindboggling stupid bitches I swear!
4. Belittling/Ball Busting
The two now mentioned depends on if you are in public or not, but it’s the same thing. We can also call this the bougie bitch syndrome. “I’m sorry but you’re not good enough, you’re going to have to do better” No matter what you say, that is how he’s going to hear it. And pretty soon, you will be the problem, not him. And you will be dropped.
5. Holding Grudges
You see, men have this thing about them. They think the argument is over. Now if you don’t see it that way, I suggest you solve the problem that day. Anything longer and you’re being petty. I can understand if he cheated on you or vice versa. But you two shouldn’t be together after something like that. We’re talking about petty shit like forgotten birthdays and inconsideration. Stretch it out too long and you’ll find yourself back at square one: single.
Singlehood is the path you’ll be walking for the rest of your lives if you don’t take to heart what I wrote above. And if you’re pissed about what I wrote above, good, you need to hear this anyways.